What happened to all the Positive Black Role Models?

       Where have all the Positive Black Role Models gone to? Sure the most polarizing one is President Barack Obama, but becoming president of the United States is realistically a far stretch for anyone. Especially a Black man. Back in my younger days we had neighborhood guys that helped to show kids that they don't have to run, shoot, or throw a ball to be successful in life. But now a days it seems like those guys have disappeared or just stop giving a shit.
       When you go into most Black neighborhoods these days you have to look hard to find the Doctors, Lawyers, (Legit) Businessmen, & Teachers. But you don't have to look to far or hard for the Jack Boys, Drug Dealers, & Gamblers. I cant leave out the guys that where awesome in sports but never made it out of the hood. I'm not putting down anybody that chooses to live that way, but we need to show our youth that there are other options out there for them. The younger we show them the better.
       I ask the question, "What the fuck is going on in the hood?". I cant pinpoint the exact answer but I can say that a lack of Black Fathers & Role Models is a huge part of it. When you are absent in the lives of the youth then naturally they will look for something or someone to fill that "Role Model" void. And to add to that the Coaches, Counselors, & Teachers that were filling that void are getting old & not enough Black men are stepping up to fill the gaps. Of course we can turn on the TV & see guys like Eric Holder, Micheal Eric Dyson, & Kasim Reed & draw inspiration from them. But to be honest the message is stronger and means more when you can realistically relate to the role model. Most Black Males in our community are your everyday 7am-6pm workers & are to tired when they get home to do ANYHING. Lets be honest for a moment, this life is not really interesting to a young man who sees the Dopeman make his Dad's yearly salary in a week.
      What we need in our community is for more programs with successful Black Men & those striving for success to go back into the community & show the youth that "Yes, I came from rags to riches & so can you". And I don't mean no BS outreach programs that are championed & supported by Politicians that will be up for election soon. I mean programs that utilize people from humble beginnings to prove to the youth that becoming a College Graduate & gainfully Employed is realistic & worth putting in the work.
       Most of all, we need more Black Men to step up & be FATHERS instead of a sperm donors. Stop letting those Child Support payments & shopping trips take the place of you being in your child's life. Kids need love, guidance & affection more than Jordan's & Levi's.
     

Act Like a Lady, Think Like A Man. GTFOH

****These are my own personal thoughts on the "Act Like A Lady, Think Like A Man" philosophy. This is not a diss on the new Steve Harvey movie directed by FAMU Alum Will Packer.*****

      I applaud any & every effort to empower, enlighten, & positively encourage any Race or Sex, BUT if a woman realistically thinks that she can think like a man then that woman has truly LOST HER FUCKING MIND. Being the product of a single mother home (for the most part) gives me a tad bit of insight into the Manly role that a LOT of women have to play in today's society. So I do realize that some women have to take on a mans role, but that doesn't translate to thinking like a man. My mom taught me a lot about life as I grew up through her kind (& sometimes harsh) words & actions. But even she knew that there was just some things that she couldn't teach me. As a strong Black Woman she accepted it & like other strong women she made a way for me to learn what she couldn't teach me. She also made sure that I was surrounded by Men that could "show me the ropes". 

     Steve Harvey didn't write his book in order to give you women the secrets of the Male mind, he wrote it to make money off the low self esteem women that think this will give them deep insight into how not to get hurt again. I will agree that some useful info can be found in that book but the title leads some women to believe that it's possible, when it's really not. The book also serves as a warning sign for some women because you fail to see the obvious when dealing with the opposite sex. 

      From my reviews of the book, I don't see anything in there that us guys wouldn't consider "Common Knowledge" or G-14 Classified, but as some people say "Common Sense isn't Common".  So for the women out there that think they hold the key to the Male psyche in their hands........THINK AGAIN. Thinking like a man includes a lot of accepting BS, tolerance of Female habits (from Men & Women), Humility, & a whole lot of other things that would take me way to many posts to list. But I can give you info thirsty ladies one major tip that I think will help you greatly when dealing with the opposite sex, THINK LIKE A WOMAN. If God wanted you to think like a man then he would have made you one. Don't get caught up in trying to guess what he's thinking & trying to react before he acts. We will only put up with so much of your nagging, guessing games, accusations & BS, before we make you a statistic (Non-Violent Statistics). 

           Lastly, my #1 reason that I say Women cant think like men is because we have a little used 2nd brain called a Penis that makes the tough decisions for us. And the last time I checked, God didn't make Penises standard issue for Women. LOL

The REAL reason Why Black Women are Less Physically Attractive Than Other Women?

               1st of all let me just say, Are you fucking kidding me?  For those who are still in the dark, a  Evolutionary Scientist by the name of Satoshi Kanazawa wrote a blog post claiming that Black women are less physically attractive than other races because of their high levels of testosterone.  Whatever, I'm not going to turn this into a bah session on him because there's been enough of that already.. I'm in no way a Evolutionary Scientist & my college degree is in Public Administration, but I grew up surrounded by  Black women & I can tell you why SOME are less attractive than other races. 
             First of all lets focus on the mouth of the Black women. You would (or maybe you wouldn't) be surprised to know what kind of words that are capable of coming from out of those pretty lips. Some of those words can be well deserved at times, but SOME Black women have a knack for continuously nagging or being verbally abusive for no absolute reason. That in itself can make a Black women less attractive.
             Another trait that can lead to SOME Black women being less attractive than other races is the "Golddigger" label. As old as a label as it is, it's still relevant today. I can't tell you how many times that I have PERSONALLY witnesed young & older ladies gravitating towards the gentleman who appear to be "Balling". Some even go as far as to say statement's like "I ain't fucking for free". Excuse me ms., isn't that prostitution? Now I do realize that 'Golddigger's" do come in all races, but it seems to be unproportionality in favor of African American females. 
             I don't want to turn this into a Black women bash session but reading that article got me to thinking about some REAL reason why some of my fellow African American Males date & sometimes even marry outside of our race. I really don't care what race you marry but personaly, I LOVE BLACK WOMEN.

The Black Baby Doll White Baby Doll Debate

*******THESE ARE JUST MY HUMBLE OPINIONS, BUT I WELCOME ALL COMMENTS. POSITIVE OR NEGATIVE**********

           I don't know about the rest of you but when it comes to my daughter playing with a baby doll, color ISN'T a factor to me. It honestly hurt's me to see & hear stories of African American people boasting & bragging about how they only buy Black dolls, figurines & action figures for their children. How can you have the nerve to practice ANY kind of racism, knowing the history of our people. Have you forgotten Martin Luther King's "I Have A Dream" speech? And I hate to be the bearer of bad news to you, BUT I never mind being the bad guy. When your precious little Pro Black militant in training goes to school, their going to play with Black, White, Asian, Mexican & every of other race that attend that school. Thank you Brown V. Board of Education for that. And not to mention the multiple races of toys that are on hand at any school. Now I fear that this behavior may stem from Kenneth & Mamie Clark's "Doll Study" Experiment of 1939 & 1940, where little black & white children were given black & white baby dolls & asked to pick the pretty one (among other questions). The majority of the kids chose the white dolls, including the black kids. Please dont let the bi-product of yesterday's ignorance, drastically influence your actions toward your child today.